Sometimes, healing after heartbreak (with God) can seem impossible, especially when you give love a chance with everything you’ve got.
To the lover and her love, love is a beautiful thing. And, being in love makes you feel like God put sugar in the world when He created it. It’so sweet. It makes you feel like Wonder Woman or Wonder Man — like everything is possible.
You believe that together, you’ll conquer the whole universe. Topping it all, you’re so certain about the future.
Until suddenly, it ends. Not because you did something wrong.
It just had to end, for valid or maybe inexplicable reasons. And your heart starts to ache.
The Ache That Can’t Be Explained
Such pain cannot be expressed to its full capacity. You can’t help but ask yourself: Why?
Why did it happen to me?
How am I going to recover from this?
And what will people say about me?
That’s how Daisy Akua Ampadu felt when her relationship, which seemed promising, had to be dissolved. She had to let go of the one person she cherished the most — the one who made her feel special, like she had won the race of love.
Daisy is a young, bright, and selfless woman. She’s ambitious and dedicated to everything she sets her mind and heart on. Many of her friends can testify to her amicability and kindness. To the outside world, she’s a lover.
But you know life — it’s never fair.
Although she couldn’t understand why her relationship ended the way it did, she had to brace herself for that chapter of her life to close.
This experience changed the way she saw herself, the world, and her relationship with God.
“One experience in life that has actually changed the way I see myself and my relationship with God — and I mean, how I see things in general — will be an experience I had in my journey of life, where someone who was very dear to me, or I cherished so much, had to go. I mean, he had to leave my life due to one or two situations, and during that period, it was very hard.”
The Cry of a Broken Heart
You can only sympathize with someone going through heartbreak. But when you’ve experienced it yourself, you don’t just feel sympathy — you feel compassionate empathy. You understand the pain. You might even go through that transformation with them.
For Daisy, this was true.
“I wouldn’t lie. I cried, I sobbed. I mean, I did everything. I wasn’t emotionally stable during that period.”
But who would blame her?
Her anticipation of the future was cut short.
Her plans? Disrupted.
“I was very, very unhappy because that wasn’t the plan. Actually, the plan was to be together. I mean, forever.”
The Unexpected Doorway to Healing After Heartbreak With God
In her journey to recovery, she understood that sometimes, things just won’t happen the way you want them to.
“Sometimes it’s not what we want. That happens all the time.”
But her experience of love and heartbreak opened a new — and even better — relationship for her. It brought her closer to Someone she fell madly in love with. Someone who knew her, understood her, loved her equally and unconditionally, and promised her a future with no heartbreak.
“During that period, there was something good that came out of that situation. That was me connecting to God on a deeper level. I’m a very strong human. But if you are not so close to me, you’d think I’m very soft. So instead of sobbing and then being unhappy, I rather turned things around by getting to know God on a deeper level.”
Her Search for Wisdom and the Power of Proverbs
Her experience led her on a quest for self-discovery and wisdom. Her searching led her to the Book of Proverbs, which helped her develop a deeper connection with God.
“So during that period, I really wanted wisdom on how to go about things. And the reason why I wanted wisdom was that I felt like I thought I knew what I was doing, but then the things I was doing didn’t go as I expected. So I felt like now I should include God because it is only when God is inclusive that whatever we want, we will gain.”
“And then I really needed wisdom and God’s direction during that period, so I decided to read the book of Proverbs for wisdom. I read all the Book of Proverbs — although I cannot remember all of it — but they were words of wisdom. Words teaching us and guiding us on what to do. That’s what made me understand that you need God in your life to be successful.”
The Breakup That Built Her Faith
Who knew that heartbreak — or losing someone you loved so deeply — could help shape you into your best self and strengthen your faith in God?
“That is the good thing that actually came out of that situation. And this period even made me stronger, and strengthened my faith in God. And I will say that I’ve become the person I am right now because of situations such as this, that shaped me into the woman and then the believer that I am right now.”
Daisy’s Advice to Young Women Healing After Heartbreak
Every human experience is a lesson for others to follow. Daisy leaves comforting words for women going through similar experiences:
“The advice I would give to a younger woman like me is: Sister, don’t stay in the bitterness. Don’t stay in the sadness.It could be that, with you, it has to do with other issues. You’ve lost your parents, you’ve lost your loved one, you’ve lost that relationship, you’ve lost that friendship, you’re not getting that love that you want from home… but dear, that is not the end of life.
“The person who can give you the strongest of all love, and unconditional love, is God. So don’t let all of these situations make you bitter. Because I’ve seen people, people who this situation, turn the other way, instead of the positive side.”
“So what I will advise you is: Sis, no matter how bad things are, no matter how bad the situation may be or make you, you can turn things around. And I mean the fact that this didn’t work — or what you are doing did not work — doesn’t mean that it wouldn’t work.”
“You have more time to change things. And please, include God. See, there is nothing impossible with God. So that is what I’ll tell the younger woman out there today: Include God. You’ll be fine.”
Her Anchor: Psalm 27 and a Song That Changed Everything
The Bible verse that carried her through was Psalm 27.
“The particular verse that took me through my pain is Psalm 27. It says that the Lord is my light and my salvation — whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life; of whom should I be afraid? And that verse helped me a lot.”
There was also a song, a popular Ghanaian hymn, that shaped how she now makes decisions.
“Asem bi ara me ka no, ade bi ara me y3. Anka 3s3 s3 me bi sa s3 3b3 y3 Yesu f3. (Every thing I say, everything I do, I must ask if it pleases God).”
“And this song really told me that every step in your life, every decision in your life, you should ask yourself: Will it be pleasing to God? Will God be happy with it? And these two things have really helped me in my life, and I’m so proud of the woman I’ve become now.”
Living in Peace, Wholeness, and Hope
Now, she’s in a better place — understanding and appreciating her journey, and living life with joy and trust in God.
“I’m so happy with myself. Like, I’m in a state in life that I don’t depend on humans. See, even if I don’t have, I believe that God will provide. I believe that God will take me there. I believe that things will be better now. Nothing makes me sad. Nothing makes me unhappy.”
“The moment I try to be a little [sad], I’m like, ‘Oh no, but God will sort it out.’ So that’s the state in my life right now. So I’m not the type — people will be like, ‘You are within this age, your colleagues are doing that…’ No, I don’t even think about those things.”
“Because I have God. And that is the new person I’ve become now. And I’m so happy. I’m so happy now. I’m in a very happy state now. Yeah.”
A Reminder
Daisy’s story is a beautiful reminder that even when life doesn’t go as planned, God’s love never fails. If you’re on your own path of healing after heartbreak with God, take heart, you are not alone.
Have you ever gone through a season like Daisy’s? What helped you find healing?
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